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Dating a black guy

My boyfriend is still in close contact with his most recent ex in a way which is troubling me.

I know he has remained close to a few of his ex’s which doesn’t concern me at all (he has the right to be friends with anyone) but the most recent ex is still extremely needy.

but other times they were absolutely, positively wrong.

Now, have you ever had someone you had a relationship with that other people didn’t approve of… People would say they didn’t like the person and they would give a reason. It was yours – they didn’t know the person in the way you knew them. and frankly, you didn’t want to explain it to them because really it’s none of their business (and they probably wouldn’t see your point of view anyway).

The first time you would take their opinion into consideration (because after all, the person who said it to you is probably someone that you know cares for you.) But regardless of their opinion, it didn’t change yours. Still, you appreciated their sentiment since you knew it was said out of their love and concern for you. Now you’re getting annoyed – they don’t know that person how you know them!

His other friends and parents agree with me, but I can’t get him see it from any other point of view.

At the heart of the issue, this sort of thing stems from your own fears.

You’re going to handle it however you’re going to handle it – all I’m doing is sharing my experience with you.

But I can tell you from my experience (both on the giving and receiving end of things), outside opinions are not appreciated.

Interviewer – Are you saying there are no successful black men to date?

Serena : Of course not but lets face it, if Oprah would date outside of her race she would be married with children now. You can only offer shelter and love and watch as our neighbor’s pitbull protects his home and family.

After you heard their opinion once, that was enough.

Now you’re starting to resent them saying anything to you…

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